of a midlife transition?
Want to move towards your goal - faster?
Design your own ritual!
Have you ever noticed that
authors of "how-to" best-sellers create their own rituals?
They design their own form
of visualization, affirmation, or just walking outdoors. Creating
a ritual adds energy and purpose to your goals far more powerfully
than following someone else's.
are the ingredients of a ritual?
1. Up to three clear goals.
The clearer you can focus on your goal, the more likely you can
achieve your desires.
2. Paper or word processor.
Psychological studies show that writing can mold behavior. You
may write something every day or just look at something you've
written. One writer drew the cover of her book and posted it
on the wall over her desk. Every day she focused energy on the
drawing and, she says, her book seemed to write itself.
3. A frequency guideline:
What will you write and how often?. You can simply see your goal
statements. You can put energy into them. You can write them
out. As a minimum, do this once a day, although don't beat yourself
up if you miss. Just go back and keep going.
Those are the basic ingredients
-- just like the basic ingredient of an omelet is eggs, milk
and water. What makes your ritual unique will be the spices and
A simple ritual might be,
"Write your goal out in a notebook every day." You
can add, "Think about your goal as you write it," or,
"Play your favorite music, full-blast, while you focus on
Another might be, "Write
your three goals on a 3x5 card and carry it with you everywhere.
Look at the card every time you open your wallet."
You could write about your
goals at a certain time every day. Say them aloud while walking
in your sacred space.
And there are different
ways to record your goals.
You can draw pictures, write scripts, or make collages.
One year I made up a ritual: Every morning, when I sat down at
the word processor, before I began to write, I wrote a little
story about moving to Philadelphia. I described the place where
I would be living and what I was doing during the day.
Within three months, I had
been moved there, all expenses paid. I found an apartment that
was remarkably like the one I had described - including sunny
windowsills for the cats to sprawl.
Luck? Coincidence? Who knows?
I was astounded myself. It never happened again. I've learned
that rituals don't last.
I suspect part of the
"magic" comes from the act of designing a ritual or
program. That is
why, in my coaching, I avoid using canned programs. They seem
to work best for whoever canned them!
And I encourage clients
to do the same. Create
your own ritual -- and realize you may need another one for your
next goal. Stay flexible, stay open and create what feels right
Cathy Goodwin, Ph.D.
Author, Career Consultant, Speaker
*Fast Track to Career Freedom*